Posts filed under ‘Social Skills’

Looking Around at the Milestone Markers: Where Have We Come?

It is graduation time. After the celebration and the well-wishing for our graduating students, let’s take a few minutes to assess where education is. I know, we are all very interested in taking off, going for summer, sitting by a pool; but just a minute, let’s see how we as educators and administrators are doing.

Simon Sinek is making a name for himself with an analyzation of millenials. He says we need to stop the phone screen addiction. I agree. He says the corporation need to work harder to accommodate this generation, because they have the lowest self-esteem of any generation and are so very unhappy.
https://www.youtube.com/results?search_query=sinek+millenials

Of course, Sinek makes no claim to real social research, but his discussion has gone viral because he has hit upon a major concern. He blames “failed parenting” but what about failed education? What about the generation, or 2, of self-esteem bolstering boosterism? BTW, real science indicates that self-esteem is created by real achievement. Never mind that teacher training continues in the wrong direction. What about the fact that the corporation was never intended to do any more socialization than be sure that the workers was working to standards and the culture of the corporation. The agents of socialization (training a child to be a functional adult) are parents, school, — and gosh maybe the church might have a role in helping people live adequately. Might we not discuss what they should be doing and doing differently?

Or must we stay with the thinking that caused the problem and say, oh you poor thing, we must take more responsibility, boundaries, and teaching/correction away from you, so you will be happier?

What do you think?

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May 25, 2017 at 11:09 am Leave a comment

Definite Techniques for Transformation

Triggers,  by Marshall Goldsmith and Mark Reiter       NY: Random, 2015

Okay, folks, we are talking about psychology and behavior here, not guns. This book begins sounding very psychologically oriented, but it was written by a management consultant, often brought in by top executives to “smooth the interpersonal rough edges off” by a CEO. Aims at helping implement desired changes.

Questions are clearly Goldsmith’s preferred methods. One chart tracks kinds of questions, whether they are more helpful or not by whether they are wanted or not and encouraging or not. Another asks whether you should preserve or eliminate, be creative or accepting. Drawn as a circle, one can plot items on a continuum.

The insight about how much environment affects a person, coupled with the questions allows people to move off their usual excuses of blaming the environment and see themselves and give themselves motivation for change.

Goldsmith reflected on his coaching failures to ask how committed to change people were. Some don not want to be changed and it is arrogant of us to think we can help them change. In other cases, people need help and structure. For instance, the 5 point checklist for doctors in intensive care units dramatically educed infections – even thought doctors know all the the ingredients. The structure of the checklist reminded them to do what they knew to do. Similarly, we know crises will occur and other challenges will come, so we need help (such as someone calling us to ask us the questions or daily rating system) or structure (such as regular check in meetings)

On the recurrent obstacles is that we get tired at the end of the day, and sometimes we have too much on our plate. Other times, we just didn’t plan to do our best, as if there were some times when it would be okay to be an amateur. Well, sometimes it is: when it is impossible to be anything else, then it is time to settle for good enough rather than be unhappy. Most of the time in interpersonal relationships, however, we could be better, if we realized there were a way. Not enough sleep

Finally he asks about when is good enough good enough. Manufacturing will have certain errors and effort to eliminate them at a certain point become counter-productive, but by contrast, a CEO must not let himself off the hook by saying he is not a professional speaker and a husband can’t avoid responsibility by saying well, at work he has to be professional.

Helpful in changing behavior and helping in cuing a coach on how to help clients.

What questions have meant the most in changing your own behavior? What questions have you posed to your staff to improve performance?

April 18, 2016 at 1:00 am Leave a comment

Better Focus for More Productivity

Top Ten Tips
1. There is no such thing as multi-tasking, there is only attention switching.
2. Disrupting attention leads to lower productivity.
3. Worrying about performance leads to mess-ups. An athlete, for instance, knows that best performance comes from automatic, not thought-through action.
4. One may reduce the 10,00 hours dramatically by using attention while practicing.
5. There are at least 4 kinds of attention:
One-pointed, goal oriented (good for getting something done)
Open awareness (good for creativity and new ideas)
Reading others (good for satisfying life & getting things done together)
Reading systems (good for organizations, and distant threats)
And possibly a 5th: meta-cognition, or thinking about thinking
6. Self-control correlates with success more than any other factor, including income of family of origin or IQ.
7. Negativity causes focus on the bad too narrowly.
8. Positive emotion widens attention.
9. Stress and over work shut down good attention — in all areas.
10. Social skills, including organizational skills, can be increased through attentional exercises.

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June 22, 2015 at 8:38 pm Leave a comment


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